To comment or not to comment?
Okay, here's the situation:
There's this girl who dresses nicely and she looks good. She and this stranger are working in the same office building but in different company. The stanger is a male that she may bump into a few times before (since they both work in the same building) and the stranger noticed one thing. She always dresses well and thus looking good. The stranger was tempted to tell a compliement by complimenting on her nice dress and just look good. Problem here, in Malaysia, is that the culture doesn't seem to promote these kind of compliements.
I asked five different ladies and they all seem to give me very different answers. I got a reaction from this particular lady that she'll give a slap to the stranger, another would be totally fine, some would say how the stranger looks (if the stranger is good looking, no issues; if stranger is bad looking, well..otherwise).
It's just a simple "I just want to tell you that you look good and I think your dressing skills are really good" can be detrimental to a guy's health.
A girl dresses nicely for people to see yet we (strangers) can't give a simple compliment? Girls only wants her friends to compliement on how she looks...but why can't a stranger give a complimentary remark? A girl buys a good-looking dress, makes herself up and thus looks good. She goes into public area, noticed by many but only allows a small percentage of viewers to compliment her. Hmmm..... a simple remark could only be done if a complex ritual has been made, i.e. friendship (in my opinion, friendship is hard and complex). Sigh.
So in conclusion, guys don't bother to compliment. It's safer and healthier not to comment. If you comment once as good, they would expect you to give the same comment next time too.
There's this girl who dresses nicely and she looks good. She and this stranger are working in the same office building but in different company. The stanger is a male that she may bump into a few times before (since they both work in the same building) and the stranger noticed one thing. She always dresses well and thus looking good. The stranger was tempted to tell a compliement by complimenting on her nice dress and just look good. Problem here, in Malaysia, is that the culture doesn't seem to promote these kind of compliements.
I asked five different ladies and they all seem to give me very different answers. I got a reaction from this particular lady that she'll give a slap to the stranger, another would be totally fine, some would say how the stranger looks (if the stranger is good looking, no issues; if stranger is bad looking, well..otherwise).
It's just a simple "I just want to tell you that you look good and I think your dressing skills are really good" can be detrimental to a guy's health.
A girl dresses nicely for people to see yet we (strangers) can't give a simple compliment? Girls only wants her friends to compliement on how she looks...but why can't a stranger give a complimentary remark? A girl buys a good-looking dress, makes herself up and thus looks good. She goes into public area, noticed by many but only allows a small percentage of viewers to compliment her. Hmmm..... a simple remark could only be done if a complex ritual has been made, i.e. friendship (in my opinion, friendship is hard and complex). Sigh.
So in conclusion, guys don't bother to compliment. It's safer and healthier not to comment. If you comment once as good, they would expect you to give the same comment next time too.

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